
By Carmen J.
I remember when I was 10 years old, my beautiful mother complained about growing whiskers. So, she crankily sought electrolysis treatments, and the term menopause was ingrained in my pre-puberty mind as being a time of much discomfort. I knew I didn’t want to be cranky and have whiskers, either.
As I started my first period in my early teens, the thought of menopause seemed completely out of reach and more for the grandmotherly folks I came into contact with. Menstruation in my teens and early 20s served much more as a general annoyance at times or a sign that contraception was doing its due diligence.
While planning for a family, a missed period would signal joyful anticipation leading to motherhood’s promise of a sabbatical for nursing. As my daughter toddled and entered pre-K, I noticed changes about myself that were surprising. I started sweating without much exertion, my moods were unexplainable, and my reliable cycles became shorter in length and less frequent.
“You’re in perimenopause,” my doctor noted. “And it may be like this for several years.” Hmm… what?
Fast forward to my book recommendation: Mary Claire Haver, MD’s The New Menopause: Navigating Your Path Through Hormonal Change with Purpose, Power, and Facts. I would qualify this as required reading for all women.
Dr. Haver, who has garnered a powerful reputation for debunking menopause myths and normalizing conversations about women’s health, delivers a tour de force book that explains perimenopause, menopause, and post-menopausal care. You’ll learn about the variety of symptoms (66!) women can experience and how they are not limited to crankiness and whiskers (Sorry, Mom!). Examples include some that are unexpected or less frequently discussed, including body odor, depression, itchy skin, and tingling extremities. Dr. Haver shares insights surrounding hormone replacement therapy’s role in minimizing symptoms while sharing benefits versus risks. Particularly eye-opening for me was learning about estrogen’s critical duty outside of reproduction (i.e., cognitive and cardiac functions). The book includes a tool kit that serves as a symptom-based resource section and shares strategies for each individual symptom.
Recently, Dr. Haver appeared on Mayim Bialik’s Breakdown, a terrific podcast. If you remember Mayim Bialik from the sitcom Blossom, you’re most likely already perimenopausal. Bialik is a neuroscientist, and her podcast is simply outstanding. I have the YouTube episode link below.
So to all those women of a certain age feeling hot flashes, irritable, or in need of some hormone regulation, you are not alone. Knowledge is power. And there is power in every page of The New Menopause. Period.
The New Menopause is available from HCLS in print and as an e-book and e-audiobook from Libby.
Carmen J. is a teen instructor at HCLS East Columbia Branch. Among her favorite things are great books, all things 80s, shamelessly watching The Bachelor, gardening, and drinking anything that tastes like coffee.















